I’ve shared that I tend to be a checklist kind of gal. I think that comes from a career auditing quality systems for the automotive industry. We had an overarching standard, or rules, to audit against and a plethora of checklists to help us stay on track. It made me giddy.
In real caregiver life, the items on our checklists are different, but the goal is the same–Provide care that follows all the rules. But wait, there are rules?
Yes, there are always rules. For me, caregiving involves love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control. That’s right! It’s the fruit of the Spirit from Galatians 5:22-23. But I have a confession to make–the traits on that list aren’t always evident in my caregiving life.
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!–Galatians 5:22-23 (NLT)
Yes, I love my sister, without question, but I’m not so consistent with the rest.
When we don’t see a whole basket of spiritual fruit, we might start asking questions like: How am I doing Lord? Why can’t I see your work in my heart? What am I doing wrong? These are snippets of my conversations with God. Maybe you can relate.
As I continue this caregiving journey, Alzheimer’s progresses, creating an ambiguous environment. It feels like fog rolling by, revealing and then concealing elements of the landscape in front of me. It hides one path forward and then unveils another. Finding the fruit of the Spirit on a foggy caregiving landscape can be exhausting. That’s because it’s not our job. It’s His.
Well, caregiving can be new and different every day (not always in a good way). And without peace, patience, kindness, and all the rest this foggy caregiving landscape can be nightmarish to navigate. But, all is not lost. This is the time to look beyond ourselves and trust the generosity of God to provide what we need when we need it.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, –Ephesians 1:3 (ESV)
Keep going, my caregiving friend. While it may feel like it at times, you are not alone on this journey. You may not see His fruit in your life right now but, chances are, someone else does. Trust God and let Him do His work.
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